Valentines Day Special - ‘Building Relationship’

Relationship matters the most. We all know without a relationship we cannot survive. Today is ‘Valentines Day’ but there are many broken relationships. So let me share with you few magic bullets for building and rebuilding your relationship, which includes one or more of the following actions:

1. Talk clearly & in details
2. Maintain Stability
3. Forgive Each Other
4. Pray with & for each other
5. Send letters, cards, and flowers (gifts)
6. Be Attentive
7. Set Priorities
8. Discuss, Discuss and Discuss Everything
9. Answer all questions
10. Meet each other’s needs
11. Do something good for the members of each others family
12. Keep good relationship with both of your parents
13. Do not scold or criticize each other before others
14. Respect Each others views
15. Show sympathy as well as empathy
16. Learn to Listen
17. Do things together
18. Involve each other in your own interests
19. Be honest to each other
20. Be responsible, do not accuse each other
21. Learn Tolerance & Self-control
22. Show humility (which really calms down a ‘relationship storm’)
23. Enjoy each other’s Presence
24. Do not be selfish
And last but not the least (in fact the greatest)
25. Try to comprehend ‘what is LOVE’ and then practice it daily

Love is – “Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not boast and love is not arrogant, love does not act improperly; love does not seek its own, love is not provoked, love does not take into account a wrong suffered, love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; love bears all things, love believes all things, love hopes all things, love endures all things. Love never fails; but now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, 13)

More over remember FOUR VITAL STEPS of any relationship:

1) Experiencing and understanding your own feelings deeply
2) Expressing yourself clearly and openly to your partner
3) Experiencing and understanding your partner’s feelings deeply
4) Taking responsibility for our actions and reactions (behaviour)

Wish you a Happy Valentines Day!

A short Review!

This is my privilege to give an account of our web page in wordpress.com. That’s ‘The Candles’, http://thecandles.wordpress.com.

It’s on the verge of completing one year in 7th March 2008. All these months were very memorable and wonderful. We as a blog owner really appreciate the WordPress.com, which has given everybody such a wonderful environment and community. We also thank all the blog owners in wordpress.com who have visited our web pages and given their suggestions and precious comments on our web page, ‘The Candles’.

On behalf of ‘The Candles’ I want to give a summary of the posts posted during the last few months. According to the number of viewers of the posts are given as under:

Top Posts for all days ending 2008-02-11 (Summarized)

Abnormal Sexual Behaviours !!! 468
UNFAILING LOVE of God for each day! 189
Prayer Requests 123
Magical Pictures 122
Testimony 66
‘Sex’ - A Gift from God! 59
Our Magazine 59
Thoughtful Prescription! 52
Roles of Spouses! 43
Extras 42
Sex – A Deadly Weapon of Devil! 41
About us 40
Conflicts in a Marriage! 36
Counseling 33
Disciplining Your Children! 32
Award for Creativity ! 30
Stay In or Stay Out? 28
Understanding Your Wife! 21
AND GOD SAID ‘NO’ 20
The Greatest Text… 19
His Presence ! 19
The Years of Blessings !!! 18
You need a check-up !!! 17
My Stress Busters ! 17
The Greatest ‘WHO’ ! 17
I CAN READ IT! CAN YOU? 17
Miraculous Change ! 15
Are you sleeping well !!! 13
God at Work! 10
Special Links 9
Losing Weight ! 9
5 S’s to Develop your PR ! 6
Our Awesome God! 5
Hello world! 4
Keys To Communication 1

Sadly speaking I expected some of the good articles should be given feedbacks. But unfortunately it was not so. I am happy that ‘Abnormal Sexual Behaviours !!!’ has the highest viewers but why something related to ‘Sex’ is highly viewed? Why not the posts like, ‘God at Work!’, ‘Miraculous Change !’, ‘The Years of Blessings !!!’, ‘His Presence !’, ‘5 S’s to Develop your PR !’ were on top. I am happy that the pages like, ‘Prayer Requests’, ‘Magical Pictures’, ‘Testimony’ are highly viewed but in comparison to ‘Abnormal Sexual Behaviours !!!’ those are nothing. Anyway God is taking care of the articles, which were written according to His will and His holy words.

I also want to talk about my other web page, ‘Pictures Speak’, http://sharecare.worpress.com

The summarized ‘all time’ viewers of the posts that were posted in this site are given as under:

Top Posts for all days ending 2008-02-11 (Summarized)
Summarize: All Time

Light of the World! 578
Lily! 65
A New Creation! 42
He Cares for You! 27
Rock of Salvation! 19
Do you know your DESTINY! 15
Transformation! 13
There will be a new Creation…! 11
Be Alert! 10
The Good Shepherd! 10
Love Your Enemy! 9
Living Bread 7
Shine your light! 5
The Way! 5
Living Water! 5
He Searches…! 5
Anxiety! 3
Thorn in the Flesh! 3
Bridge! 2
Traning your Child! 2
New Life! 2
Sign of Peace! 1

I am encouraged to see the post, ‘Light of the World!’ has got the highest viewers. This post is incomparable to other posts. God has blessed this post abundantly. Wow!

Viewers and readers! Thank you so much for your feedbacks. Keep reading and keep commenting, that really encourages us.

Thanks to ‘WordPress.com’.

Keys To Communication

Take turns while talking don’t interrupt

Learn to Listen

Concentrate

Be Understanding

Respect Different Opinions

Keep the focus on the problem

Accept the differences

Avoid unnecessary expectations

Take a time-outAlways

Do A Healthy Evaluation

Our Awesome God!

Our God is so amazing and wonderful that we always feel amazed whenever we comprehend His greatness in His wonderful creation. But after knowing few of the facts regarding His creation the only word will come to our hearts and minds for Him is Awesome.i. The speed of ‘one beat of a fly’s wing’ is 0.001 second. It means the fly beats it’s wings 1000 times in a second.

ii. Do you know what is the speed of lightning? It reaches earth in 0.001 second.

iii. A humming bird beats it’s wing 80 times in a second.

iv. The blink of a human eye is 0.33 second.

Wow! Isn’t our God AWESOME?

God at Work!

God has always been so gracious to us, especially me till now. I really thank God for that. For last four months I was suffering from Gastritis and Polycythemia. So I went to the hospital in October 1^st and I was admitted on 4^th for Cardiac Catheterization and Phlebotomy. I had to undergo both procedures one after another and was discharged from the hospital on 8^th. Doctor said “we can’t do surgery anymore in future, as it is of high risk.” He advised me for periodical phlebotomy, which has to be done through out my life span. That’s my life now. There are few restrictions, which have been put on different things, especially physical strain. But I thank God for His gracious guidance.

I have put one picture out of the whole of my Cardiac Catheterization procedure for you all to view and thank God for me, a miracle. On 9^th October, I completed 32 years of my life on this earth working as a normal man. Isn’t it great, what God has done in my life!

Hey! Friends! If you have some problems throw it on His shoulder and He will take care of you and your problems as He did for me. He is at work.

Do not forget to praise Him.